“Why are you a feminist? Are you afraid of men or something?”
Ah, of course. All of a sudden because I want to fight and stand up for females, that obviously means that I have a vendetta against men. No. In fact, I love men. Men are great. In actuality, men play such an important part in creating an awareness and understanding of feminism and can act as a great agent for social change and creating a more equally driven world.
Unlike a lot of females, men are in a position of power where their voice, their financial and social situations offer them an opportunity to do more for themselves, and equally for that of women.
By taking a stand for women, whether it be in the workplace, in a social situation, classroom, or in the home, we are one step closer to bridging the gap that has divided men and women for centuries. We start to eliminate the patriarchy and begin to see women for who they truly are, not what they have been romanticised to be or who they have been told to be.
It would be a great sadness to profess that men are the enemy. When really they aren’t.
“So, it’s not really just about females then, it’s about everyone?”
Yes, but also no. If we avoided the statistics of the gender wage gap, domestic violence rates, incidents of reported and unreported cases of sexual abuse and workplace harassment and discrimination in regards to women (among other issues), then sure we’d be able to say it’s about every one.
The truth is, statistics don’t lie, and statistics show that there is a significant gap between men and women in relation to the factors mentioned above. This is not to say all men are placed under one category, or that all women are the same either – we all have our own unique experiences. This is simply a blanket truth supported by research that reveals women are greatly impacted by issues of the world far more than that of men.
So, whilst feminism supports the notion of equality as one of the main goals and reasons for it’s being, we know that equality is only achievable if there is a solid focus and attention on issues that affect women and that it’s not always about men. Trust me fellas, we love you, but to be on the same page, we at least have to be mentioned in the god-damn book.
Why do you think it’s important to have an ‘International Women’s Day’?
Honestly, every day is and should be seen as our special day. As women we have always been given a huge responsibility as mothers, daughters, sisters, friends and lovers to be the best woman we can be.
We are told to be comforting and loving, to be sexy and still dignified, to be bold and yet remain cautious, to be smart but not so much as to be overbearing. There is a lot of pressure from society and ourselves. We deserve this day, if anything, to prove how amazing we are to ourselves and other women, more than to any one else.
“You should write about take-no-shit women like me. Girls need to know they can break the rules.” – Gloria Steinem, My Life On The Road
So, I hope this ‘International Women’s Day’ that all wom*n (* and those who identify as women) understand how great they are and how amazing it is to be bound together by a commonality and passion to fight for change, our basic human rights, and ultimately an equality that knows no judgement.
If you affirm with the belief you are a feminist, tell us what you believe it means to you to be a feminist, in the comments. This is a hate-free zone, where all men and women are welcomed and encouraged to participate. Please be friendly.
Happy International Women’s Day!